I try hard to make my relationships work. Sometimes, though, I have been guilty of wasting precious emotional energy trying to salvage relationships that belong in the emotional dumpster. If a relationship isn’t working, patching things up, sounds like a good idea – but extreme makeovers of the heart just don’t work as well as the “home edition”. It is in my nature to do makeovers – not only with my houses, but also with people. I mean really, who among us has not said to our significant others – honey, if you drank a little less, exercised a little more…or who has not looked at another person and thought – oh, she (he) has such a lovely face – imagine what she (he) would look like if she(he) lost a little weight……I have been on the giving and receiving end of THAT issue.
Many of us are guilty of trying to fix people. We are even subconsciously attracted to people we can “fix”. A friend of mine calls that the “broken wing theory”. If it is not an external fix, then we are either trying to make them be happy, or not depressed, or whatever we think they need. It is not our job and that should be left to therapists. I am going to stick to houses. The “fix” of the day is a wall. At least with a wall, when the patching is done – the job is complete. With relationships – where is Dear Abby when you need her? I have learned that the only relationship that I can change is the one I have with myself! Everyone else – get your own emotional contractor – I’m busy with my house!
So I found this great patching material. Sometimes a little spackle is just not enough. This product is sold at most big box hardware stores. I found it at Newtown Hardware House. It comes in several different sizes and is very easy to use. You simply take the 
screening out of the package and place the sticky side to the hole. Then you glob on the spackle, let it dry, sand, and voila!!!!!! a beautiful patch job! This was an easy fix because the hole was in a closet – and it was a good place to practice. Part of me 
wanted to simply paint over the hole, put the pole back in the bracket, and hang clothes to hide the mess, BUT, what a great opportunity to try this neat product!
The painting of the master bedroom is almost complete. All the walls are painted, the ceiling is done, and most of the woodwork has at least one coat. It will take about three coats to finish the woodwork, because it had been painted a deep green. The floors should really be sanded and sealed, but I am going to use a heavy duty cleaner and sealer to see if that does the trick. New furniture for the room was delivered today – so the floors will have to wait for another day. It is starting to look like the peaceful retreat that I have envisioned. It is so exciting when the rooms start to come together. I figure another two weeks and this room will be done and I will start on the dining room. Oh the plans I have!!
